When my partner makes a mistake or an issue arises, do they take responsibility, or do they always blame me or others?

Do I feel seen, heard, and understood by my partner, or do they seem unable or unwilling to empathize with my emotions and needs?

Does my partner have a need for constant admiration, attention, or praise, and become visibly upset or defensive if they don't receive it?

Does my partner often act entitled, expecting special treatment, or believing that rules and boundaries don't apply to them?

Do I often feel the need to "walk on eggshells" or carefully choose my words to avoid causing a disproportionately angry or defensive reaction from my partner?

Does my partner try to control my choices, friends, appearance, or time, often using guilt, manipulation, or criticism to get their way?

Does my partner frequently talk negatively about others, including past partners, or exaggerate their own talents, status, or success?

Do I often question my own memory, feelings, or perception of events after talking with my partner (e.g., do they deny saying things they said or twist reality)?

Do I feel emotionally drained, anxious, or less confident in myself since the relationship began?

Do you/did you feel a sense of uneasy anxiety, and or/ confusion when you think of certain aspects of your relationship?

Do you/did you wonder if you are over-reacting or mis-remembering events?

Do you/did you tell yourself “it’s not /wasn’t that bad”?

Do you/did you find yourself clinging to memories of ‘good times’ even when the present day is consistently negative?

Do you/did you hide aspects of your relationship from others due to shame or embarrassment?

Do you/did you notice problematic patterns but choose/chose to overlook them?

Do you/did you question feeling stuck or paralyzed by indecision?

Do you/did you believe your partner is/was a good person but consistently treated you poorly?

Do you/did you minimize the abuse/suffering (of yourself and others)?